On Valentine’s Day, the age-old question of who should pay on the first date resurfaces

By jennyd on February 14, 2024
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On Valentine’s Day, the age-old question of who should pay on the first date resurfaces. Here is what I found. Who do you think should pay?

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  • Over 70% of Americans believe the man should pay on the first date.
  • 68% of women expect their male dates to pay, while 78% of men feel responsible for the cost.
  • The person who extends the invitation for a date should pay the tab and tip.
  • If unimpressed on a first date, offer to pay your part to avoid wasting the other person’s money.
  • Consideration of who earns more money can determine the payer, especially in established relationships.
  • Money conversations can be subtly introduced early on in dating to set expectations.
  • More than two-thirds of Americans agree that couples should discuss money matters within the first six months of dating.
  • A TikTok trend called “Loud Budgeting” encourages financial transparency in relationships.
  • Dating coach Natalia Juarez advocates for radical transparency about financial expectations early in the dating process.
  • Be honest about financial limitations or preferences regarding splitting costs to avoid misunderstandings in relationships.

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