"A Little Messed Up, but We're All Alright…."

There is this club that we all know is out there but until you’re coroneted into it, you really don’t fully understand it. That’s what happened to me when I became a single parent a year and a half ago.  For me, a divorce after 16 years brought me into the world of single parentness.  Yes, I made that word up. Yet, for every single parent out there you’ll find a different story.  For most of us being a single parent or (SP to make it easier) is not how we thought we would tackle this parenting thing.  We thought we’d have a partner to share the journey with us.  Sometimes life just doesn’t work out that way and I’m here to say that is okay.  We are okay.  Or as Kenny Chesney says, “A little messed up, but we’re all alright.”

My hope in starting this blog is to share my life and all the messiness that makes it real. It’s not just going to be about being a SP, but being single and a parent is my lens these days.  Although it’s not the lens I anticipated, it’s a good lens.  I will say that becoming a single woman and parent has increased my compassion and grace in ways I didn’t know needed to be increased.  I also find that I am so much more appreciative of my friends and family.  I’m willing to ask for help now, which is something I’ve struggled with my whole life.  I’ve also reconciled that I can’t do it all on my own.  Sometimes I’d like to think I’m Wonder Woman (shh – I am minus the lasso)  but I also need the other Super Heroes in my village.  We all have different strengths and abilities and my Super Hero team is comprised of so many different types of amazing people.  So when you see me post something and hashtag it #blessed – I mean it.

We are in this thing called life together and for a reason. I don’t believe in coincidences and I don’t believe we’re meant to do life alone.  I believe we’re here for relationships and connections of all different varieties.  If we lead with love, how can we go wrong?

xoxo Melissa